Pretty Girls: Merciless spell of competitive spirit prevails in the company’s world, mainly in the women’s gatherings, and doesn’t require a loose competition. Sometimes, just a girl being confident, really nice, or simply because people pay attention to her for whatever reasons-beauty, personality, or skill-is secretly perceived by other women to be the “main character.” That typically doesn’t reflect reality and is mostly based on inner insecurity, comparison, or otherwise social conditioning for women to compete for validation or visibility.
Mean-spirited and threatened characters misbehave out of sheer pettiness and emotional immaturity: egos are briefly inflated by “taking” someone who’s not even giving a competition; however, nothing much is said about the attention-demanding person: tearing someone down often fills in for fragile self-esteem.
Wider, more complicated emotional circles of friends are the general characteristics of women, thus creating an innate clash among friend circles, conscious or not. Friends, however, tend to be from smaller social circles, and unlike men, friendships are not hierarchical. Most entry level men go into conflicts and confrontations to resolve them, creating a transient event in the connection and generally continuing the relationship.
Sweet or just cool with the boys, or even just having male sidekicks naturally earns a girl the title of a “pick me,” whether her attitude shows that she’s acting from attention or sincerity. This in turn asserts the stereotype about the girl as someone who wants to train closer with guys by putting down other women, being another example of misguided competition.
But it’s not always the case that there is rivalry in every social exchange. I would say that sometimes personality clash, misunderstanding, or stress would create friction that people read too much into. And not every attention or confidence indicated threat is really such.
In the end, the highest use of judgment to judge someone as an “attention seeker” is true more for the observer than the observed.
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